A week of relaxation, and tension continues. Although my husband and I have refreshed and re-energized our relationship, tensions in family matters deepen. Another issue with family, another onion to peel. Instinctively, I push it to my husband to resolve. Not this time. Some of what I am reading and becoming aware of in yoga and the sutras awakens me to the fact that I may be the thread in his family. Maybe it was not just fate that brought me to my husband and his family. I may be what will keep them together.
Since we have been together, my husband's relationship with his parents has been better and deepened. With this heavy problem facing me, I look back and see that I have been a reluctant sounding board for all of them. They are a very volatile group. They project outwardly to everyone. This can be very heavy for many people, who shy away from their persona. The ones who stay are either there for the ride, or strong enough to push back. I push back on my husband and lend strength and support when needed. Now, I realize, I need to directly strengthen the parents. I have been support through my husband, but I have come to a point where I fear without a direct push, relationships can not be saved.
After peeling my last onion, I have already been able to get to what I think is the rotten layer without confrontation. But, I strategize. The dramatic person in me has formed many scenarios, but logic and calm must touch each and form a presentation that will be constructive and objective. I imagine the outcomes. I prepare to get to the heart of another onion I did not want to peel.
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